I Stand Alone...

[hantsbear]

All three major romances in my life have happened unexpectedly.  The close friendship that developed with rock_bear kept me going post utahmtnbear.  And now.  I am alone.  I have no-one that I share the same closeness that I felt with either Clifford or Russ.  I go to local bear meetings but people there are either in relationships or just uninterested in me.  All the interest at the moment seems to be from across the pond.  It might as well be out at the Milky Way.  Hell, even a trip to Manchester might just as well be a trip to Australia, but without the koalas.

I feel quite stuck.  I left the south because I knew I couldn't afford to live there and there would have been too many bad memories staying in Gosport.  Mind you, I had about as much interest from the local bear group there.  But I refuse to change.  To cut my hair and conform to UK Bear Official Standard Buzz Cut And Goatee just isn't me.

Where is my man?

Comments

[furr-a-bruin.livejournal.com]

I can empathize -- there aren't many fans of shaggy biker types here in the Land of LA either.

*sigh*

*hugs the koala*

[jonsmind.livejournal.com]

I know the feeling and situation all too well!

[shaggycub.livejournal.com]

***hugs*** perfectly understandable. It's not easy going it alone. I can't say I love it. But, as evidenced by the wonderful men you've had in your life, it's not necessarily a permanent state.

[colicub.livejournal.com]

Your man is probably somewhere you'd never expect, asking the same questions right now.

And as you know, I'm not one for joining the typical bear standards ranks myself....

[fargonrob.livejournal.com]

I am painfully becoming re-aware of it.

The closest density of bears would be a 5 hour drive down to Minneapolis.

We learn to live with it, it feels a life less full without another set of eyes and a heart to share it with. No one to share your parts of life that are those day to day things.

Thing is, you are an attractive man, your fun to be with, you have a very snuggly nature. What stands against you, us is finding a venue to meet more folks that might want into our lives, not just our pants or are never can be's.

Of all the times, this is one I have the fewest answers.

*NuzzleHugs* best I can do from here.

[jacob-xiii.livejournal.com]

I agree totally with you that the best of things generally happen unexpectedly. Many times I've thought of going for the chop too, especially when I get crap all too often from people and in places that you wouldn't expect it. But then I also have a dread of being mistaken for an impendingly middle-aged emo-twinkie type :P Ugh!? So, no Vidal Sasoon haircut for me, I'm sufficiently happy with who I am now :) I do think that there's a kind of 'barrier' if you go to places where people conform to a particular look, like there's a tendency to think that people are or should only be interested in carbon copies of themselves. I have had more than one unpleasant confrontataions due to that, and it's just backward and infantile. Then, randomly and out of the blue, I'd get the complete opposite when expecting yet another stupid comment. Um, I'm not too sure what the point I was trying to put across was now, other than chin up and all that. I've only spoken to you IRL a few times (a few years ago now), and I'm kinda introverted, but you're a good bloke. I'm sure you'll meet someone as equally good :)

[msclwolf.livejournal.com]

gggrrrr, angry...can you tell? Firstly.....there are bear meetings in Nottingham? ha ha ha Secondly, how DARE they they not be interested in you for YOU, ggrrrr. Makes me wanna turn up to one of them with you n role play heavy petting man bauble ha ha ha Would that annoy them enough do we think?

Have a couple of good chums in Notts, so statistically for me it seems the place of choice for quality chums!

You be you, sod the rest :)

[kaoskrew.livejournal.com]

I do empathise dear and we just have to make the best of what does come along and they are not all running to my door! As I said before you are welcome to call visit and seems a while since we spoke rather briefly after you returned from fiesta!

John.

Hi

[(Anonymous)]

Just stopped in to read up on you some :) I am a biker as well and I do love the long-haired biker type. Ran across you on BearCiti and wanted to say hi. Sent an e-mail there for ya :)

Greg (St. Petersburg, FL, USA)