Don't bother going. If it's going to be a choice between catering to someone else's potential problem and retaining some self-esteem, go with the one that leaves you with some pride. Stop listening to the other relatives. I have no idea how close this cousin is, but it's their wish that counts. If you feel, or know, that it would be no big deal to the bride and groom to bring Russ, (who is just another longhaired, bearded guy to anyone else) then bring him. If not, don't attend. Trying to uninvite someone, especially on behalf of the bigoted, is just rude.
My mom tried to pull this when my sister got married. I told her that if she didn't want my friend, then I wouldn't go either. She backed right down.
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Date: 2004-06-21 07:46 pm (UTC)My mom tried to pull this when my sister got married. I told her that if she didn't want my friend, then I wouldn't go either. She backed right down.
Stand up for yourself, Koala! Hugs!